Irreverent Quandary

Abby, Read your post. Was pleasantly surprised how...

2012-05-22T22:00:14.372-07:00

Abby,
Read your post. Was pleasantly surprised how moving TBEMH turned out to be.
Neale (Lisa's Class of 2003?2004?)

Oh how I remember all this!So, so glad I'm out...

2012-04-25T11:45:36.536-07:00

Oh how I remember all this!So, so glad I'm out of there! What a hell hole!

Hey, Abby, I just read your most recent blog, and ...

2012-04-03T01:34:30.825-07:00

Hey, Abby, I just read your most recent blog, and came back to this and realized you may not have known that that comment above was from me, the savage detective, LOL. It is I, Pedro Preciado. :) But I have been enjoying your writing and I wish you continued success with it and, of course, I wish your mother the best possible with her health.

Take care,

Pete aka Pedro

Abby, I loved your essay about Didion. I did not d...

2012-02-14T19:46:07.590-08:00

Abby, I loved your essay about Didion. I did not discover Didion until recently (late twenties), and still a lot of what you said about feeling lost, how it parallels Didion's life and maybe all women in their early twenties, waiting for their lives to start, is such a universal experience. I linked to it on my blog! Can't wait to read more of your work.

This means a lot to me, and hits home, as I rememb...

2012-01-19T02:36:03.902-08:00

This means a lot to me, and hits home, as I remember my mom in this phase, although she went through it all in 6 months. Its always hard, I guess, and they don't want us to stall or pause our lives, regardless of how much we feel we should.

My mom always, always said she did't want us to have to be taking care of her and her eating and hygiene, that she'd rather go quickly, but she fought hard at first. Then one day, after she wasn't speaking anymore, I could see the absence of the fight in her eyes. And I think she went that week. I was demolished, of course, as I was never going to be truly ready for it, but I wasn't surprised. And now I realize that she was able to make that choice for herself, that enough was enough, even though us selfish kids still can't accept it.

On a somewhat lighter note, I can also relate to the difficulties and joys of two pushin 40-somethings moving in together and dealing with lifetimes of build up and truly loving each other and trying to make it work and be happy! and make each other happy.

to be continued: on your Facebook. :P

nice writing ms mimes. you had me laughing my arse...

2011-10-06T10:01:09.501-07:00

nice writing ms mimes. you had me laughing my arse off the whole time. dude, you are one dry smart ass!

Thank you for sharing Abby. I love to read your w...

2011-09-27T17:44:54.524-07:00

Thank you for sharing Abby. I love to read your writing - it always stirs up a nice emotional wave. I can totally relate to the waitress life as well as making out with a surfer into the wee hours of the morning - ah, those were the days. I hope you are well and hope to see you soon! - Amy (Stein) Richter

Beautiful.

2011-09-19T16:14:28.575-07:00

Beautiful.

Thanks Abby for continuing to inspire in all of us...

2011-08-30T12:03:49.048-07:00

Thanks Abby for continuing to inspire in all of us what it really means to be living life, to be immersed by it.

I look forward to your writings about this in the coming years as you look back as well.

Take care
Mickey

You have hit the mark once again. I get it. Please...

2011-08-29T14:06:46.021-07:00

You have hit the mark once again. I get it. Please give Bobbi Ma and Jim our Love. Hugs Baj and Narayani

"But these last few years, faith has sort of ...

2011-08-29T13:16:21.311-07:00

"But these last few years, faith has sort of had me in a choke hold; the universe has given me no choice but to believe."

Amen.

Beautiful surrender.

Hi Abby, Thanks for your blog. Please give Bobbie...

2011-08-11T21:38:16.928-07:00

Hi Abby,

Thanks for your blog. Please give Bobbie a hug from me. I wonder if she would remember me without RoseAnn. I am struck on how you have expressed how I feel even now that RA has passed a year and a half ago. Small talk is difficult and I feel like I have little to say to people. It is changing slowly. Thanks again

Christopher Dolan

My dear Abby, thank you so much for the moving and...

2011-07-22T11:59:23.141-07:00

My dear Abby, thank you so much for the moving and honest report about Bobbie, and about the way your interactions with her are deepening, opening, awakening you. It's what Ram Dass would call "awe-full beauty." Yamuna and I send love and prayers to you, Bobbie, Jim and Kari.
RAM-RAM-RAM!
Ganga

Bobby is still teaching all those around her (us) ...

2011-06-17T08:10:03.399-07:00

Bobby is still teaching all those around her (us) isn't she? :)

You are capturing the beauty of her journey more accurately and beautifully than I ever could have. No visuals needed...Thanks Abby!

Mickey

thanks Abby for another lovely glimpse of Bobby. N...

2011-06-16T13:22:45.639-07:00

thanks Abby for another lovely glimpse of Bobby. No one could be as prepared as she is for this ordeal, or less deserving of the suffering.

Bill Wells

Thank you Abby for telling your story. It brings ...

2011-05-20T19:25:17.121-07:00

Thank you Abby for telling your story. It brings up emotions in me that are real and hurt and help me face what I sometimes choose to ignore, death and the mystery of it and the reality. And how it feels looking at your Mom with cancer. Keep writing......for me and for all of us.

Sherry

thanks abby - as always, your words are beautifull...

2011-05-16T12:01:12.826-07:00

thanks abby - as always, your words are beautifully blunt and on the mark. having lived in the same controlling parental universe as your mom (and had her mom as my god mother, and surrogate parent ready to take me and my siblings if our parents died) I know what she has been escaping from, and her legacy is your clear idea who you are and the ability to share it.

about the fact that meghan got there first - someone always gets there first, but not necessarily better, and even if they are, their story isn't yours, or as good. this is what's so depressing about bookstores - how could there ever be another book? there are millions out there on every possible subject. but only some of them are readable, and few have your strong voice. i look forward to your story about bobbie. seems you have no choice but to write it anyway, since you are living it.

keep up the good work.

bill w

When there truly is no other choice, it's amaz...

2011-04-16T12:26:21.913-07:00

When there truly is no other choice, it's amazing what one can withstand. Sending you strength.

I love you so much Abby Mims, and you are stringer...

2011-04-16T07:12:46.110-07:00

I love you so much Abby Mims, and you are stringer than all of us put together.

In a certain way, we are NEVER equipped to lose ou...

2011-04-15T18:31:22.601-07:00

In a certain way, we are NEVER equipped to lose our Mothers. Our source of being. Our first memory--at the cellular level--and very probably our last as well.

There are some things you can not prepare for totally. The mind will not allow for it. And this is why God gave us tears. At some juncture along this road, they will come, unbidden, unwanted, but they will come.

It is nature's way. And the tears help to bridge the gap between now and then--that future 'now'.

Prayers & thoughts with you now as
daily you are asked to do the ultimate that a daughter can do for a Mother.

Take Care of Yourself, and YES, work out, eat chocolate cake, have a Margarita.

I know you will be and I am so sorry that you will...

2011-04-15T16:17:47.404-07:00

I know you will be and I am so sorry that you will have to be.
Mere

OMG . . . Greig and I are SO much alike in this wa...

2011-04-04T22:55:47.114-07:00

OMG . . . Greig and I are SO much alike in this way . .. I not only have one month at a glance calender, but I also have a Letts of London calender BOOK where I write everything I have to do that day, including changing sheets, sending BD cards, what time to wake up and leave the house and the like. I even used to make a note in this book if Fred had called me! I derive a great deal of satisfaction out of drawing a line through the things I have accomplished on my banal list . . . it's a trait Greig and I share. I too, am a fountain pen fan . . . and deplore the rolling ball pens . . . how bourgeois!

Great entry Abby . .. you are SO gifted . . .

xoxoxox

CMH
4 April 2011

PS the new job . . . is getting in the way of living . . .and my new observation is that multi tasking is BS!!! We've been sold down the river into believing that Multi Tasking is admirable . ..

Thank you for sharing the pleasure of marking a da...

2011-04-04T14:20:17.245-07:00

Thank you for sharing the pleasure of marking a day, and telling your story. It always brings insight and honesty into my day. Love to you Bobbie.

i didn't spin back then!

2011-03-23T16:34:16.332-07:00

i didn't spin back then!

wonderful and so well put. thank, abbie

2011-03-22T10:32:29.612-07:00

wonderful and so well put. thank, abbie